Condom- a deal breaker or not

As one grows up we involve ourselves in a monotonous relationship hoping and praying the other partner is faithful or at least is using a condom wherever he is.

When is it the right time to whip out a condom? I don’t know about you but have you ever noticed that sometimes we become attracted to other people even though we are happy in our current relationships. And it’s not because one is a loose woman but opposite attracts right?

And who must carry the condoms? Who is responsible to actually to carry them? It seems if one always carries condoms you are forever expecting to be laid. I wonder how it works out there but one has to carry it for once safety and health well being. Yep you meet people where you find that sexual tension is high however it does not mean you will lay with them in the hay.

We have a new term for escorts-MAVUSO. Yep the escorts they are now called mavuso. I just want to know how it works cos in the mavuso case there is responsible pimp as such. It’s an arrangement between two consenting adults who are not however involved any way but for the day or night will pretend to be a item and later hook up. In this case does one negotiate condoms usage or is the prices set as per need demands?

Then there is Mazola or five 2. It’s a quickie nicely put. Here two strangers can meet and hook up in the car, loo, anywhere for that matter just to relieve. Here I don’t think condom is out of question ne? They do their thing and come back and sit down among  fellow human beings. They continue whatever they were busy doing or what they came for. Again can one negotiate condom? Is there a form of payment?

Then comes the village bicycle everybody whether experienced or not they ride. Ride on brother. Again my question arises- condom is it negotiated? Yes I do understand that here the village bicycle does have a choice but I don’t think it is always like.

In all of this circumstances there is consequences that can affect one for their entire life time. There is danger out there. Be it infections or god’s gift-children. How are you going to know who is the father of your off-spring? Don’t you think its much better to abstain, yeah I understand the need to curb poverty but if one is going to be marginalized then that’s another issue.

In some countries one can trade as a prostitute so long as they are not a group however he or she flies solo but there is danger attached to that. You might hook up with a psycho or a carrier of whatever diseases out there and expose yourself to it.

Fine here’s somebody who have been lusting after for a while now and the opportunity presents itself to you do you think about condom or the moment’s pleasure? Lets say its in an office situation are going to walk that office with somebody’s fluids dripping? Fine wipes are there but shoo what about the 3rd party involved? What if they are sick?

The 3 little words (SEX) can be deadly for real. Sure you will enjoy but you don’t know what future it might present- herpes which might even sterilize or baby or even ebola virus. No matter how phallus the situation can be one still needs to be extra careful. Vultures are forever circling around us waiting for that fatal moment in our life.

What I believe is what does not kill you makes you strong but it does not mean that we need to test it for real.  Hahaha.

Can I ever say I’ll abstain until I meet my soul-mate, nay I think I have passed my sell-by date. The use of a condom came with its own advantages and disadvantages hey. Some became very promiscuous because they were using condoms, for others it became way of life-survival and salvation. Nothing is quite upsetting for a grown woman to pop out babies without fathers. How are going to support those kids morally.




A day at the saloon

One has to go through this at least once in their life. Getting hair done can sometimes be exciting or tiring depending on the mood you are in. Sitting the whole day at the saloon can be quite an eventful day. Yeah eventful.

You know mos coming to hair business loyalty is key, it goes both ways. It takes skill from the person who does your hair both in their trade as well as people skill. You’ve got be able to charm both male and female without becoming overbearing or suffocate your clients.

Standard to high

When you look at yourself do you see an entrepreneur?  I’m confused.

What is an entrepreneur? In my world is someone who has guts, self-stater and some who is not afraid to start something afresh and new. What do you call yourself? You need to be able to tackle challenges head on, no need for an easy route though.

By doing what you are do you think that you are grabbing half an opportunity presented to you. Did you consider the risk factors involved in what you are doing? How are you going to compete with the big boys already in the league? Yep I do understand that you want to build something for yourself however you need to at least do some research in your chosen field. I do understand that it is a very competitive world out there however be smart as well cos what you are doing its a disgrace to fellow human being.

What will the people say if something goes wrong? You want to prove to them but I bet you they will be disappointed when they hear that all your efforts were in vain. I know the world is unfair however you also don’t need to be a dirty player.

Big players create barriers to entry however looking at it positively it gives an opportunity to identify a gap in the market perhaps compete with them on another level. Give them a run for their money however you choose to be humiliated in the long run. Why do you use shortcuts?

Insider info has its own advantages however the disadvantages are far more to bear, they will cripple you and your reputation. How do you expect people to take you seriously as a reputable entrepreneur? I really don’t understand how do you expect to survive in the competitive sphere of the business that you are in.

Please take a step back and retake everything that you are doing. People outside are industrious very serious about their future I wonder about you.

Read your contract fully and do research around them. I know that it is what you know best but you are not willing to try some avenues still want to be stuck with the same devil. Just one thing though don’t call yourself an entrepreneur.

Contracts-the lack or availiability thereof for artists

Today one had to prepare a contract between two artists, boy it was not an easy task I tell. I realized that there is a lack of readily available contracts for fine artists. I am not one to give up easily but in this regard it took a lot out of me hence the need to say my bit. Shoo artists are in a dog eat dog  world with ruthless people who take advantage of them. They are taken for a ride by people who want to pay less for artist’s original work. Their rights are violated. This makes me wonder what other challenges do they have? How can one bridge the gap in assisting them? The much publicized fallout between Generations actors and the writer sort of got me thinking about artist rights. How do we treat them, are they employees with benefits, contract employees with no benefits just like temps or independent contractors? I always believed artists work differently to normal 9 to 5 workers. I believe they are disciplined even though like any human beings they are bound to misbehave, most are hard workers though they may seem lazy cos we are not in touch with their world. I salute of them cos it takes sum guts to choose the artist root. I know that when some of them were asked by their parents what do they want to be when they grow up when they mentioned the fine artist they were asked what does it entails, they would explain rather excitedly only to be disappointed when asked haven’t they drawn enough when they were at school however we have to understand that parents, grandparents are concerned that they may be wasting time drawing. I also was once cynical to performing artist in particular DANCERS. I would look at them dancing and think out loud “and they will tell you that they are tired, from what jumping around like that?”. Lazy buggers. They want to see their children prosper in life you know marriage, kids, houses and cars.  Well life is full of surprises I tell you. People find employment in the art industry as it is vast and has a lot of opportunities both skilled and unskilled. Yep it does provide food on the table for people who initially had nothing to do with art or never thought this industry will provide anything to them. Everybody has a bit of a share in the art industry. I salute you ARTISTS keep on grinding the stone. MUCH RESPECT.

artwork done by Rethabile Irene Ndhlovu

Artwork done by Rethabile Irene Ndhlovu