when you no longer want me,will you tell me?

Exactly that

when you no longer want me will tell me? at least say goodbye to me? not make up stories?

We meet people and come to love and end up living with them but

  1. are they worthy of our love?
  2. are they worthy of time?
  3. do they deserve us?
  4. are they honest enough to be trusted with our valuable info?
  5. are they honest with us?
  6. can we take their word for it?

When a boy sees a girl and approaches the girl, it seems like it will be forever and ever. But when a man meets a woman is all about compromise, lies and heartbreak.Why is it like that?

You come to love him warts and all but they have special goal they want to achieve out of meeting with you. I understand you can’t just meet a person without his especially after a certain age in life. The honors lies on you to be honest with the other party. Whether you twist the truth to suit you but at least hint regarding your history.

If I no longer fit into your plans please don’t string me along.

Don’t lie to me.

Don’t abuse me.

Don’t cheat me

Don’t steal my stuff when you leave.

Leave my money alone and most definitely my kids too.

I dated this foreign guy and we eventually moved in together and had 3 kids together. He spoil t me in the beginning however he no longer does that instead he beats me up at every corner and chance he gets. I support the both us as he no longer can but it’s okay. Now he came up with a new version to his predicament of not making money – he lost his papers and he needs money to sort them out. We have been together for how long -18 years? They can’t find his fingerprints on the computer and he has to go back home to sort them out. Yes you guessed right he is moving on with somebody else other than me. He has enough of me hence the beating now he wants to make off with my money that I work hard for.

Why is it difficult for him to leave me just like that-disappear? Why must he steal my money? Why lie to me? Yes I should have left him the moment the beatings started but ……..

Yes I do sleep around and blame him for that. I suspect he knows but doesn’t give a hoot about me. He leaves early and comes back in the early hours of the morning. He doesn’t even touch me. It’s like I am repulsive.

Why do I allow to be treated like that I dare ask.


I have no answer for you and I don’t think I will ever have.


Age ain’t nothing but a number I guess

I remember R Kelly singing something about age being just a number or something to that effect.

Is it really just a number?

What does it mean really?

Does it translates into something worthwhile?

Do one need to be concerned about it?


There is always comment of some sort where there is age gap involved regarding a relationship between two consenting adults. What is you feeling exactly regarding it.

One lady when asked why she is dating a young buck she said “oh I didn’t change his diaper so I’m really concerned with how young he is”. Wow that is some answer ne? But when a man does exactly the same thing he is hailed as a hero. Why is that?

Most of the relationships with young guys never end well and it becomes an issue if you have a son. Look what happened with Oscar and Reeva, sad ain’t it? There’s Kelly and Senzo another tragedy.

Is it love or lust? I think it 1st starts as an experiment and as time goes on it develops into something rather hectic I must say. These young bucks they can be really romantic than the old toppies out there. Their skills are out of this world I tell you, their are well mannered by all means however I can’t shake the feeling that we corrupt this young minds by getting involved with them in the 1st place. How would you feel when somebody else dates your young boy? Will he still be that respectful as he used to be? I mean he’s getting used to seeing a an old body (I mean wrinkles and all). Will he still find his peers still attractive? Or will he think that they are naive, inexperienced? I don’t know hey. Oh is it a question of being a teacher to the young buck?

True they are very attractive, very charming, yo gorgeous, have bodies to die for (those abs) and confidence is galore. Most of them are metro sexual. For some is all about numbers for them. They want to be spoilt by sugar mamas. I think some end up falling in love for real. Older women are matured with curves at the right place, they know what they want, can be very cunning and sly. Some do create best of men out of this boys whereas some create monsters for real. It depends on how you view it as long as at the end of the day there is something positive or negative comes of out of it.